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One continuous comment we hear in various ways from single people we talk with around the world is that they would very much like to be able to connect with other single like-minded people who are also on their spiritual path...

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From Bewilderment To Clarity

So often this column is triggered by a person's question, or, as in this case, a litany of questions. Let me share the main thrust of his – yes, a sweet guy named Steve – questions so we have an outline of his challenges.

Basically, he asks: Is there something that decides we have to come back here because we have done such and so? Is repaying karmic debt more along the lines of what we can forgive in ourselves, and others? If we can truly let go and forgive ourselves and others, does that not relieve all or most karma? If someone does not totally believe that they have done a negative thing, have they really done a negative thing? I am thinking now of attachments, of how we all keep going back to the old patterns of behaviour because we are attached to them, getting some kind of security or satisfaction from them. What are the most common things we come back for?
You keep saying in your books how bleak the future of this planet probably is going to be. I have fear over that (as do many, if not all) and I am working on letting it go. And I have to be honest. While I love, absolutely love your books and all the extraordinary mind and heart-expanding journeys, I have to wonder if you are trying to, or might want to, offer us compassion, gentleness and extra-powerful day-to-day wisdom during what I consider to be (and actually hope is) the ending of this hurtful world, and the beginning of heaven on this earth. I have lately been experiencing some crazy, angry energy (probably like many other people), and I wonder how much of it is floating around in the world and how much is coming up in me. I know you would say, "There is nothing outside of Self." I would say that there are many layers and aspects and perspectives of that One Self. And now I am getting carried away with more words again.

With regret, I suspect that Steve is one of hundreds of millions of people with similar thoughts, feelings, and questions. When I look back on my own life, I can identify with his thoughts and feelings, but from my current perspective, I am amazed at how we make a life that is actually so easy to live so very difficult. In many ways, answering your questions will not make the slightest bit of difference to you, or anyone else . . . unless you LIVE the suggestions that I offer. The questions are a statement about your disillusionment with yourself, and thus with life.

I am going to pick from your comments fairly much at random. You write; I have to wonder if you are trying to, or might want to, offer us compassion, gentleness, and extra-powerful day- to-day wisdom during what . . . In actuality, I wrote the Oracle Day By Day book of wisdom for just that purpose. I am fairly certain that you have the Oracle, and you probably use it, but look how many people miss out! They are still available, but it will never be reprinted in such a beautiful presentation. Okay, continuing your words; what I consider to be (and actually hope is) the ending of this hurtful world, and the beginning of heaven on earth. Steve, my friend, the world has never hurt you; it cannot. Only you can hurt yourself. I say again; your relationship with yourself is your relationship with life. How you treat yourself is how the world will treat you. Do you not see, the world is reflecting back to you your treatment of yourself. The world is a mirror. You and I live in the same world, but I experience a beautiful world. Does this mean that everything that happens to me is exactly the way that I want it? No, definitely not. What it means is life offers me continual lessons which are personal, only if I continue to personalise them. If, however, I see my lesson, accept it and learn from it, without taking it personally, from the person, people, or situation involved in my lesson, then the hurt and anger never arise, or they very quickly fade. The world does not personalise anyone, Steve. You/we do that. And get hurt . . . and then falsely see the hurt in the world.

Heaven IS on earth, right now. It's here, and always has been. If you are waiting for an event that is going to create heaven all around you, then . . . it has happened. If you are still waiting for a heaven-on-earth event . . . then you have lifetimes of waiting ahead of you. If you want gentleness, Steve, then be gentle with yourself. As you know, Oz has experienced some massive flooding. The floods did not knock on the doors of the houses, and softly ask, “Can I come in and flood your house, gently disrupting all your clinging to sameness habits?” No, it came to many houses in a tidal wave, smashing houses and dreams and expectations and attachments into oblivion. It left thick, stinking mud behind, a non-gentle reminder that we have been stuck-in-the-mud for many lifetimes. Will anybody get the message that life is delivering? Maybe one will, or, hopefully, a few. Most people are as saturated in victim consciousness as the houses were in floodwater. Already they are looking for a person, or people, to blame regarding those who control the Wivenhoe Dam and its massive release of water during the floods.

Steve, everything that happens in your life, in my life, in everyone's life, is about the growth in our state of consciousness. Yes, there are great clouds of anger clinging to the ethereal planes of our planet, but we created them. They belong to us; they are our anger.

Our reasons for anger may be self-righteous, and even based in the many injustices in the world, but that is us too. Humanity cheats, controls, and exploits humanity, but our anger only connects us to this even more deeply. All that 'stuff' is illusion; the true life of a human is spiritual. Every time you get angry with yourself, or another person, you are adding to the anger of the world. By getting angry, you create an attachment to it; you are the anger, all unknowing and unrealised. Personally, I no longer feel that anger. In the last couple of years, I have had two sons offer me a great opportunity for anger, and from one of them, I took it. But three days of anger showed me that this does not work. I let it go. I then had a six month period of feeling hurt, and that also reduced the quality of my life. Feeling hurt does not work. Then I stepped into a non-hurting, non-blaming, non-attached space, feeling unconditional Love for both of them. This changed everything. Love works; for me, directly; for them, indirectly.

Steve, you ask a lot of questions about karma, linking it to forgiveness as a solution. As you well know, karma is cause and effect. Tell me, where does forgiveness fit in? You sow a cause, and reap an effect. You need to be aware that forgiveness holds hands with blame. For as long as you blame, you can forgive . . . and for as long as you forgive, you will continue to blame; they are part of the same cycle. To blame someone is causative; to forgive them is an attempt to stop the effect. It does not work. But what happens if you cut blame completely out of your life? Your life becomes more peaceful. Criticism is a type of blame; criticism and blame hold hands. This means that if you remove self-criticism and self-blame from your life, there will be no anger . . . or, at least, your anger will be greatly reduced.

Now, I know at this point you may get all intellectual on me, quoting Christ saying, “Forgive them, Father, they know not what they do.” This is a human translation of Christ's words, translated probably fifteen to twenty times, even before it reaches English. Add to this, as with other translations, it has been written in the words of the culture and the times. I suggest that you throw out the concept of forgiveness, and replace it with the reality of acceptance. Now you have, “Accept them, Father, for they know not what they do.” By accepting yourself, and other people, blame is no longer invoked, and forgiveness is not necessary. It also means that clouds of anger will not be descending into you, because your whole field of energy will have changed. It will be lighter and brighter. Simple enough!

In your questions from the ever-hungry mind, unrealised, you are seeking fodder for the mind to cogitate over. The mind looks at the world like an old, half-blind dog, while having a scratch; it shows you what you expect to see. You are too busy chewing on the old bone of discontent to realise that you are the creator of your life. The flavour of discontent and victimisation is so strong, you are unable to rid yourself of it. In this way, the flavour of self-victimisation and discontent manifests itself in your daily life. And you blame the world for this! Please, Steve, do not take this personally. This is not an attack on you; this is from a person who probably Loves you more than you Love yourself . . . and that should never be!

Oh, and by the way, Steve, I do not keep writing about a bleak future in my books. Look again. You are investing my words with your own emotional fears. I do write about change, with a big, capital C. Without serious, global, Major-Change in our worldwide human consciousness, we are in Big trouble. As a species, we are on a path toward insanity. You think not? I am not pursuing it in this column, but my life is all about unconditional Love and teaching why that is so badly needed right now. In a nutshell, people continue, every day, to live in a way that does not work, expecting better results. This is a definition of insanity. When Nature finds an expression that does not work, Nature immediately begins to change it. Let me close with these last words, something to bring into your life, and live.

I have discovered what does work, and that is what I live with. What is that? There is no such thing as a personal problem; there is only a lack of unconditional Love.

In Love and Light, Michael